Borderline Disorder: DEATH KISS TO MANY MARRIAGES
In this material about Borderline Disorder we will be looking at the nature of Borderline Disorder and its association with marriage infidelity and divorce. We'll be discussing the healing of Borderline Disorder, and the anxiety that accompanying divorce and infidelity traumas that patients experience in childhood by their primary care givers.
The Nature of Borderline Disorder
Borderline Disorder is a multifaceted and powerful emotion that arises from many sources, including the loss of the ability to trust or feel safe, penetrating worries, and (over responsibility) an excessive sense of responsibility, faintness in confidence, shame and guilt. The causation can be modeling after an insecure or borderline parent and biological factors called epigenetics. As trust and confidence diminish, anxiety and fear regularly intensify in the relationships with Borderline patients.
Borderline Disorder, mental and emotional illness
Later in adulthood, these conflicts can lead to the development of Borderline Disorder, which can have an extremely damaging impact upon physical and mental health, as well as upon important interpersonal relationships. Borderline Disorder can cause serious illnesses that can be as devastating as severe physical issues or other medical illnesses.
Borderline Disorder leading to mistrust in relationships
Very frequently, family of origin mistrust, particularly from emotional or physical damages in the father relationship, can subconsciously emerge after being buried for years or even decades. This mistrust can be directed at a completely trustworthy spouse with severely damaging outcomes. The spouse with such a father injury can experience the loss of a feeling of love for his/her spouse and resentment (that is really intended subconsciously for the father but is misdirected).
Origins of Borderline Disorder /Mistrust/Marriage
The most common cause of borderline symptoms in marriage is the result of the loss of trust or a safe feeling at different developmental stages in childhood. The result is arrested emotional development.
More About Arrested Emotional Development:
http://emotional-intelligence-training.weebly.com/arrested-emotional-development.html
Normal verses Borderline
People with normal development; develop trust or a safe feeling in life through the establishment of secure attachment relationships first in the home with mother and father, siblings. Then again outside the home with friends, peers, teachers, coaches and dating relationships.
However, many borderline adults have damaged trust by relying disproportionately upon romantic feelings and giving themselves to others who turn out not to be trustworthy in late teens and early adulthood.
In adult life trust or feeling safe can be damaged in numerous ways including by injuries in friendships, courting, work, and by a spouse or partner.
The Nature of Borderline Disorder
Borderline Disorder is a multifaceted and powerful emotion that arises from many sources, including the loss of the ability to trust or feel safe, penetrating worries, and (over responsibility) an excessive sense of responsibility, faintness in confidence, shame and guilt. The causation can be modeling after an insecure or borderline parent and biological factors called epigenetics. As trust and confidence diminish, anxiety and fear regularly intensify in the relationships with Borderline patients.
Borderline Disorder, mental and emotional illness
Later in adulthood, these conflicts can lead to the development of Borderline Disorder, which can have an extremely damaging impact upon physical and mental health, as well as upon important interpersonal relationships. Borderline Disorder can cause serious illnesses that can be as devastating as severe physical issues or other medical illnesses.
Borderline Disorder leading to mistrust in relationships
Very frequently, family of origin mistrust, particularly from emotional or physical damages in the father relationship, can subconsciously emerge after being buried for years or even decades. This mistrust can be directed at a completely trustworthy spouse with severely damaging outcomes. The spouse with such a father injury can experience the loss of a feeling of love for his/her spouse and resentment (that is really intended subconsciously for the father but is misdirected).
Origins of Borderline Disorder /Mistrust/Marriage
The most common cause of borderline symptoms in marriage is the result of the loss of trust or a safe feeling at different developmental stages in childhood. The result is arrested emotional development.
More About Arrested Emotional Development:
http://emotional-intelligence-training.weebly.com/arrested-emotional-development.html
Normal verses Borderline
People with normal development; develop trust or a safe feeling in life through the establishment of secure attachment relationships first in the home with mother and father, siblings. Then again outside the home with friends, peers, teachers, coaches and dating relationships.
However, many borderline adults have damaged trust by relying disproportionately upon romantic feelings and giving themselves to others who turn out not to be trustworthy in late teens and early adulthood.
In adult life trust or feeling safe can be damaged in numerous ways including by injuries in friendships, courting, work, and by a spouse or partner.
Cultural factors also are contributing to damaging trust
and growing in borderline symptoms.
New research shows borderline symptoms
get stronger with age if left unchecked.
and growing in borderline symptoms.
New research shows borderline symptoms
get stronger with age if left unchecked.
Cultural conditioning EXAMPLES INCLUDE:
The collapse of the nuclear family
Divorce
Day care
People being treated as objects
The growth of narcissism in the culture
Single parenthood
The growing hostility
Fantasy, lack of morality and marriage in the media
Poor school systems etc.
Infidelity
For numerous reasons most of us enter our adult lives (and then our marriages) with these trust issues and "wounds." However with borderline disorder these wounds and the accompanying behaviors can cause traumatic relationship issues.
Borderline Treatment explained here:
http://treating-borderline-personality.weebly.com
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The collapse of the nuclear family
Divorce
Day care
People being treated as objects
The growth of narcissism in the culture
Single parenthood
The growing hostility
Fantasy, lack of morality and marriage in the media
Poor school systems etc.
Infidelity
For numerous reasons most of us enter our adult lives (and then our marriages) with these trust issues and "wounds." However with borderline disorder these wounds and the accompanying behaviors can cause traumatic relationship issues.
Borderline Treatment explained here:
http://treating-borderline-personality.weebly.com
More info below:
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For the spouse of a Borderline
For Borderline patients
The Treatment method I recommend
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